Domestic abuse

Find out about the support available for adults and children who are victims or survivors of domestic abuse.

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Urgent concern

If you are ever in immediate danger, you should call the police on 999. If you are not safe to speak on the phone, when you call 999 on your mobile, then press 55 to Make Yourself Heard and let the 999 operator know your call is genuine. If it is not urgent, but you wish to report domestic violence, visit the North Yorkshire Police website.

Domestic abuse support and advice 

If you are directly affected by domestic abuse and need advice and support you can call Independent Domestic Abuse Services (IDAS) on 03000 110110. You can also find out more on the IDAS website.

There is also specific support for men suffering domestic abuse from the ManKind Initiative - you can call their confidential helpline on 01823 334244 from 10am to 4pm, Monday to Friday. For more information visit the Help for Male Victims website.

Independent Domestic Abuse Services (IDAS) live chat

The live chat service on the IDAS website is offered via online video calls, messaging services, telephone and email and supports people who are afraid of a partner or family member.

The live chat service runs from 1pm to 4pm, Monday to Friday.

Contact

Email: info@idas.org.uk

National Domestic Abuse helpline: 0808 2000 247

Information about domestic abuse in easy read format

What is domestic abuse

Domestic abuse is not just physical. It includes psychological and emotional abuse, such as controlling, coercive, threatening and degrading behaviour. It is usually carried out by a partner or ex-partner, but could also be by a family member or carer.

It can also include, but is not limited to:

  • financial / economic abuse
  • online and /or digital abuse
  • isolating them from their friends and family
  • making threats to children or pets
  • controlling who they see or what they do
  • sexual violence

Domestic abuse can affect anyone regardless of gender, age, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, or socio-economic status.

Living with domestic abuse can cause long term emotional, psychological and / or physical harm.

Despite the fact that domestic abuse is common, it is under-reported. Some people may not be aware that what is happening to them is domestic abuse. Some people do not tell anyone because they feel ashamed or that in some way it is their fault, but this is never the case.

If you are being abused, you are not alone, and it is not your fault.

Economic abuse

Economic abuse is a legally recognised form of domestic abuse. It often takes place in the context of intimate partner violence. It involves the control of a partner or ex-partner’s money, finances and things that money can buy, such as clothing, transport, food and a place to live. 

Your bank may be able to support you to take back control of your finances.

The Banking Support Directory website includes information about the support that some of the major banks and building societies can offer if you have experienced economic abuse. You can also find out more about the Banking Support Directory for economic abuse survivors on YouTube.

Honour-based abuse or violence

There is no legal definition of honour-based abuse or violence. It happens when a family or community believes that an adult has behaved in a way which goes against what they consider to be acceptable behaviour. 

While most often carried out against women and girls, anyone can experience honour-based abuse regardless of age, ethnicity, sexuality, religion, or gender, including men and boys.

Types of abuse

The nature and range of the abusive behaviour can vary widely and can include criminal offences, such as:

  • physical assault
  • sexual assault
  • hate crime
  • controlling or threatening behaviour
  • forced marriage
  • female genital mutilation
  • virginity testing and hymenoplasty
  • abduction
  • imprisonment
  • murder

Honour-based abuse is recognised as a form of domestic abuse.

Support for honour-based abuse

Stalking

Stalking is a pattern of fixated, obsessive, unwanted and repeated behaviour which is intrusive. This causes fear of violence, or serious alarm or distress. Stalking is different from harassment and is identified by the stalker's obsession with a specific person. 

Anyone can be a victim of stalking and harassment. If the unwanted behaviour happens more than once it is classified as stalking and harassment. Stalking and harassment may be carried out by someone known to the victim, like a partner, ex-partner, an acquaintance, or a stranger.

Stalking is a high-risk indicator of serious harm or homicide in domestic abuse cases. For more information visit the North Yorkshire Police website.

Check if your partner poses a risk to you - the Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme (Clare's Law)

This scheme gives any member of the public the right to ask the police if their partner may pose a risk to them. It is often called 'Clare's Law'. Members of the public can also make an enquiry into the partner of a close friend or family member.

Request information under Clare's Law on the North Yorkshire Police website.

To access a short guide to how the scheme works you can view the North Yorkshire Safeguarding Adults Board page.

Housing advice if you are experiencing domestic abuse

Experiencing domestic abuse and live in a council house or housing association property

If you are experiencing abuse at home, your housing officer may be able to offer support and advice.

Please contact your landlord to organise a meeting or phone call so you can discuss your options. You do not have to put up with the abuse.

Emergency accommodation

If you need help with refuges, emergency accommodation and longer term housing options please visit our Housing advice for those suffering domestic abuse page.

What to do if you are worried about someone you know who may be experiencing domestic abuse

If you are worried about someone else, you can report it to the police on the North Yorkshire Police website.

You can also report domestic violence anonymously to Crimestoppers.

Find guidance on the Independent Domestic Abuse Services website or by phoning their helpline.

I want support to change my abusive behaviour

If you are over the age of 16 and would like confidential advice to stop domestic abuse you can contact Inspire North by completing an online referral form.  

For further information about this domestic abuse perpetrator programme, including local contact details, visit the Inspire North website

North Yorkshire and City of York Domestic Abuse Strategy 2024 to 2028

Domestic abuse is everybody's business. The council is working with local partners who have developed a multi-agency abuse strategy which provides clear, shared priorities and commitments.

For further information about the North Yorkshire and City of York Domestic Abuse Strategy visit our North Yorkshire Partnerships website.

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